OK, in hindsight, the thread was supposed to be about the house, not the relationship. While I get the compromise, sharing, togetherness stuff, each relationship is different, and I'm sure no one wants to get into some deep analysis about why I'm right and she's wrong, right?
I'm more willing to compromise on things like decor. At least puffy 80's furniture or an ornate lamp can be easily removed. Hell, we're even going with some glass blocks in the bathroom after all. That's what a nice guy I am!
When someone wants to put in a multi-paneled front door or crown moulding or a decorative half round window or vinyl lap siding or a white-picket fence or a barn-style 2nd story addition etc., I'm sorry, but I gotta draw the line. A purist I'm not - I'm basically open to anything contemporary-looking, 50s modern or otherwise (hence the glass blocks), I just think trying to go Cotwold cottage, colonial, farmhouse, etc. in a MCM (or a 50's modern look in a Tudor, for that matter) with even a minor remodel is tacky.
I do appreciate both perspectives, however. While I'm inspired to keep trying to get my wife to appreciate modern architecture, on the other hand, I don't feel quite as bad about the glass blocks.